Hitting on girls in the gym will always be a controversial subject. Interestingly enough, the answers are polarizing – meaning that people either think it’s fine or it is absolutely not. If you have a question, you can e-mail it to us, hit us up on Facebook, shoot us a tweet on Twitter, or even scream at the top of your lungs.
Is Hitting on Girls in the Gym a Bad Move?
Hitting on Girls in the Gym is a Bad Idea
Arthur, I feel very strongly about hitting on girls in the gym, but I can try and work with you. Those girls are just trying to do their thing, but maybe they wouldn’t object to being pursued if done properly. Here’s what you could try. First off, pick one, don’t be a man whore. Find a way to cross paths with her — in and out of classes, locker rooms, water fountain. Simply smile and say hi, from there it’s your job to read her facial expression and body language. Now, considering the gym is an environment where people are consistent, that means you have time. You’re not at a random bar with a one shot deal. After a few times if she always smiles and seems happy, one day just reach out your hand and introduce yourself, that’s it. Baby steps. Eventually it will work up to you securing a date.
Editor’s Note: Hitting on Girls in the Girl
When we get down to it, stop thinking of you getting to know a girl as “hitting on her.” Hitting on girls in rude and disrespectful of her time – in fact, remove the words “hitting on” from your vocabulary and replace it with flirting or complimenting. Get to know her and build a relationship, either platonic or otherwise. Anytime you walk into a room with a goal of hitting on girls in the gym, in the class, in the office, it’s a bad idea. Besides, would you rather be the guy hitting on her and making her feel uncomfortable? Or would you rather be the guy who she grabs to be her pretend boyfriend? Girls are ditching jocks for nerds these days and they are also ditching jerks for gentlemen. Man up.
Be the knight – not the jester.