Hitting on girls in the gym will always be a controversial subject. Interestingly enough, the answers are polarizing – meaning that people either think it’s fine or it is absolutely not. If you have a question, you can e-mail it to us, hit us up on Facebook, shoot us a tweet on Twitter, or even scream at the top of your lungs.

This week, we tapped into a close friend of conFITdent, Mike Simone from Men’s Fitness. You have probably seen some of Mike’s Ask conFITdent articles by now or have seen some of Mike’s articles on MensFitness.com or even communicated with him through Men’s Fitness’ social pages. Mike works out religiously and literally has the keys to the local gym where he works out. We figured that when it comes to hitting on girls in the gym, Mike would have either have insight based on experience or he would have witnessed some of the most epic fails and successes in the history of hitting on girls in the gym, making him the perfect person for this question.
This is going to sound sexist, but I think it is very interesting to hear a guy’s honest opinion here. The reason being is that sometimes if you ask a girl what she wants or what she would like – sometimes, you don’t get an honest answer. I’m not saying girls are liars by any means, but sometimes they do things that surprise themselves. For instance, girls always want a nice guy and say that they hate jerks – yet, sometimes we find them in the company of jerks. So if your female friend says that she hates it when she sees guys hitting on girls in the gym, does she mean it?

Is Hitting on Girls in the Gym a Bad Move?

There are these two smoking hot girls at the gym. I know that the right thing to do is just let them do their thing, but any tips on how to approach them without being an annoying guy that they avoid? Also, do you think if I approach one then the other will think I’m a creep? – Arthur from Delaware

Hitting on Girls in the Gym is a Bad Idea

Arthur, I feel very strongly about hitting on girls in the gym, but I can try and work with you. Those girls are just trying to do their thing, but maybe they wouldn’t object to being pursued if done properly. Here’s what you could try. First off, pick one, don’t be a man whore. Find a way to cross paths with her — in and out of classes, locker rooms, water fountain. Simply smile and say hi, from there it’s your job to read her facial expression and body language. Now, considering the gym is an environment where people are consistent, that means you have time. You’re not at a random bar with a one shot deal. After a few times if she always smiles and seems happy, one day just reach out your hand and introduce yourself, that’s it. Baby steps. Eventually it will work up to you securing a date.

Editor’s Note: Hitting on Girls in the Girl

When we get down to it, stop thinking of you getting to know a girl as “hitting on her.” Hitting on girls in rude and disrespectful of her time – in fact, remove the words “hitting on” from your vocabulary and replace it with flirting or complimenting. Get to know her and build a relationship, either platonic or otherwise. Anytime you walk into a room with a goal of hitting on girls in the gym, in the class, in the office, it’s a bad idea. Besides, would you rather be the guy hitting on her and making her feel uncomfortable? Or would you rather be the guy who she grabs to be her pretend boyfriend? Girls are ditching jocks for nerds these days and they are also ditching jerks for gentlemen. Man up.

Be the knight – not the jester.

By Daniel

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