Confidence with women is something that directly correlates to your successes and failures. So what I want to go over with you today is a few different ways that you can improve your self-perception and overcome barriers you currently have in place when it comes to meeting women.

Get in Shape

You need to get yourself in shape for many reasons including health, fitness, & confidence. When you exercise you are able to get out stress, release endorphins, and also get more muscular. I don’t know which one of those things is something you wouldn’t want to be part of your life every day. People are visual creatures so be aware of your appearance. There are tons of great workouts you can find right here at Confitdent.

Friendly Advice: You get more from a workout routine when you take the time to do it right and with a weight that you are able to lift comfortably in the beginning. So if you are new to the gym or just starting up again don’t worry about how much you can lift from the get go. Take the time to learn the movement and do it right before going up in weight. This will prevent injury as well as stimulate maximum muscle growth.

Grooming 

Get a new haircut. Even if you don’t want to change your style get a haircut the day before you are going out, it’s a great confidence booster for most of us when we get a haircut that comes out perfect. You usually leave feeling pretty good about how it looks and that confidence should carry over and used to build momentum in other parts of your life. So why not get your haircut on Thursday and hit the town on Friday to show it off. If you have facial hair you should keep it neatly trimmed or down to just stubble. It will show that you care about how you look. You should also take the time to make sure that your nails are clean and trimmed and that your skin is not dry. So use cream or cocoa butter trust me you don’t want your hands to feel sand paper.

Know How to Dress

You should be mindful of what your clothes and jewelry say about you. We as individuals make assumptions about people when we first meet them. First impressions count. You want to make sure that you come off well within the first few minutes of meeting someone because a bad impression will take on average 20 more positive encounters to fix. Dress appropriately for where you are going but don’t be afraid so show some of your style.For example if you wear a suit to sports or college bar you come off as pretentious. If you are going for flair just stick with a vest, sports coat with jeans, or a skinny tie. You should wear clothes that fit you properly so if you’re skinny don’t wear baggy clothes. Or if you are a bit overweight don’t wear skinny jeans. Now if you took my first piece of advice you should be good to wear a form fitting tee and jeans out to almost any occasion. It works great because it’s a versatile look and you can show some of that definition you have been working on in the gym without looking like you’re trying too hard  (like wearing a tank in the winter). When it comes to accessories I recommend that you always wear a watch and make sure your shoes are in good condition. Statistically speaking most women will notice the wear and tear on your shoes and the type of watch you wear. So be mindful of the little things. Avoid wearing too much jewelry or other flashy items unless you’re in a glam rock band or are an aspiring rapper.

Relax

This one maybe the toughest part for most guys when it comes to approaching women. Relax your just talking to another human being it’s not like communicating with someone from another planet. Be confident in who you are. If you remember from my first article How to Score a Date in : 2 steps there are over 7 Billion people out there. If you don’t find someone interested in you tonight it just might not be your time. You can’t meet the right person unless you’re out there.

Have Fun

Meeting women is not a science , there is no formula, and there are no guarantees. What works for one person may not work for the next. So experiment with your approach and who you are as an individual. Don’t look at what society tells you to look for in a woman. Look for what you are looking for in general with the people you surround yourself with.[ Having stuff in common is a great start and that’s a lot more fun than just focusing in on appearances or the idea of a person. If you keep this in mind when you try to pick up girls the process, and the women you meet will be a lot more fun.