Going through a breakup can be tough and there’s no easy way to get through them. Whether you’re a regular Joe or a famous celebrity, there’s no way you can escape heartbreak. In fact, celebrities often have to have their relationships out in the public, meaning that their heartbreaks are often out on display for all to see. Believe it or not, but the holiday season is actually one of the most common times for break-ups to happen. In order to help deal with the holiday break-up pain, here is some of the best heartbreak advice from celebrities who have been through it too.
20. Jennifer Aniston
Jennifer Aniston’s relationship and break-up with Brad Pitt was on the cover of every tabloid magazine for years. Everyone around the world followed the couple’s break-up and many hoped that they would one day reunite. Aniston has been quite vocal about the break-up and she has some wise words for those going through something similar.
“There are many stages of grief. It’s sad, something coming to an end. It cracks you open, in a way—cracks you open to feeling. When you try to avoid the pain, it creates greater pain. I’m a human being, having a human experience in front of the world. I wish it weren’t in front of the world. I try really hard to rise above it,” Aniston explained.
Rihanna’s break-up with Chris Brown was a highly controversial one. However, Rihanna was able to rise above the pain that she experienced and she had some great advice for those suffering through a heartbreak. “Just believe that the heartbreak was a gift in itself. Cry if you have to, but it won’t be forever! You will find love again, and it will be even more beautiful! In the meantime, enjoy all that YOU are!”
Our next celebrity was only married for 72 days before she filed for divorce from her spouse…
18. Kim Kardashian
Reality star Kim Kardashian has had a lot of experience with past heartbreaks. After only being married for 72 days to Kris Humphries, Kardashian filed for divorce when she realized it wasn’t the right choice. However, although it was a tough decision she knows that it was the right one.
“I felt like I was on a fast roller coaster and couldn’t get off, when now I know I probably should have. I got caught up with the hoopla and the filming of the TV show that when I probably should have ended my relationship, I didn’t know how to and didn’t want to disappoint a lot of people…But I do know that I have to follow my heart…It just didn’t turn out to be the fairy tale I had so badly hoped for,” Kardashian explained.
17. Demi Moore
Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher’s relationship was the talk of Hollywood when these two were together. However, after they broke-up, Demi revealed that she learned a serious life lesson. “I used to think that what scared me was the idea of being abandoned until someone said to me, ‘Only children can be abandoned. Adults can’t be abandoned because we have a choice. Children don’t have a choice.’ So I started to rethink. ‘OK, it’s not that. What’s the underlying thread that really scares me?’ I think what scares me is not having the courage to reach my full potential.”
Sometimes, one of the best ways to get over a break-up is to dive straight into your work. In fact, that’s exactly how Madonna got over her string of heartbreaks. “I think work saved me, and I’m very grateful that I had work to do…Life is an adjustment. It’s different…There are pros and cons, but I feel good now,” Madonna told Rolling Stone.
15. Robert Pattinson
Twilight film star, Robert Pattinson went through a pretty traumatic break-up when co-star Kirsten Stewart ended things with him publicly. However, over time, Pattinson accepted the fact that the two of them were young and were obviously not meant to be together.
“It’s just young people… it’s normal! And honestly, who [really cares]? The hardest part was talking about it afterwards. Because when you talk about other people, it affects them in ways you can’t predict,” Pattinson admitted.
Next, we have the queen of break-up songs sharing how she deals with the pain of ending things with someone…
14. Taylor Swift
Taylor Swift is the queen of writing songs about heartbreak. In fact, her creative writing is what helps her get through each devastating break-up.”There’s just been this earth-shattering, not recent, but absolute crash-and-burn heartbreak, and that will turn out to be what the next album is about. The only way that I can feel better about myself — pull myself out of that awful pain of losing someone — is writing songs about it to get some sort of clarity,” Swift explained.
13. Jennifer Lawrence
While at the moment it might not feel like it, sometimes a break-up could be the best thing for us. That’s the exact lesson that Jennifer Lawrence learned from her past relationships when she realized that incompatibility is a huge issue.
“I wake up earlier in the morning when I have new sponges. That counter doesn’t even see it coming. [My ex-boyfriend] would never wring them out. We were in the kitchen once, and I picked up the sponge, and it was soapy and wet, and I was like, ‘See? These are the kinds of things that make me think we are never going to work.‘”
12. Khloé Kardashian
Khloe Kardashian went through a seriously heartbreaking break-up with Lamar Odom. However, she shared that staying positive is the best way to get through the devastation.
“The busier you are, the less you’re going to think about something, so I would try to consume your thoughts with productive things. Try to just find a hobby and keep yourself busy in a really positive way. Or surround yourself with friends and family that you love and who do really occupy your mind,” Khloe told fans.
11. Katie Holmes
Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise shared one of the most iconic Hollywood relationships. However, their devastating break-up really shook Katie to her core. Still, she learned to not define herself by her relationships.
“I don’t want that moment in my life to define me, to be who I am. I don’t want that to be what I’m known as. I was an actor before, an actor during and an actor now,” Katie told People magazine.
10. Nicole Kidman
Before Tom Cruise was madly in love with Katie Holmes, he was married to Nicole Kidman. Their marriage, however, didn’t last as it was hard to keep things running smoothly under the watchful eye of everyone. Nicole still walked away with a breakthrough life lesson about not being desperate for love.
“I’m not sure what the future holds but I do know that I’m going to be positive and not wake up feeling desperate. As my dad said, ‘Nic, it is what it is, it’s not what it should have been, not what it could have been, it is what it is.’“
9. Sandra Bullock
Sandra Bullock went through a devastating scandal with her ex, Jesse James. However, despite all of the pain, Sandra managed to turn it around and change her mindset toward the situation.
“We’re all where we’re supposed to be. I am exactly where I want to be now. You can’t go backward. I’m not going backward. I’m grateful that I’m here, blessed to have what I have. Nobody can be prepared for anything. You end up in a place where you can look back and go, ‘It happened, but I’m so lucky to be sitting where I am sitting.’“
8. Ben Affleck
After breaking up with Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck decided to do some soul searching. His greatest lesson from the break-up was learning how to be alone and make peace with the situation.
“I think I just ran away. You can only handle so much. I moved for a while to this place in Georgia that I have, was able to get away, by and large, from stuff. Come up with a plan for how to do something with my life that doesn’t put me in the crosshairs of this sort of thing.”
7. Cameron Diaz
Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake’s break-up was tough on Diaz. However, she never let that experience stop her from letting love back into her life again. Realizing that she had a lot of love left to give was a profound moment for her.
“When I was going through a bit of a heartbreak a little while ago, I said to a friend, ‘Wow, this really hurts!’ And he said to me, ‘That just shows you what your capacity for loving is.’ I would rather have my heart broken a thousand times than never to love at all. I have so much love to give—I’m not empty of love, I’m full of love,” Diaz revealed to InStyle.
6. Ryan Phillippe
Ryan Phillippe and Reese Witherspoon were a top poster couple from the 90s. Everyone was in love with these two and it really felt like they were destined to be together forever. Unfortunately, rumors soon came out about Ryan and another female costar and the two soon split up. However, Ryan learned a valuable lesson through it all.
“[Divorce was] the darkest, saddest place I had ever been. It was a struggle—there were a good four or five months of not being able to get out of bed. It was the worst time in my life. You get through it. It’s a process that’s not easy, but I get less and less sad about it every day.”
5. Lauren Conrad
“There are those breakups that are so bad that you will need a good cry and a pint (or two) of Ben & Jerry’s. Let yourself have what you need. Let yourself go and let yourself obsess over every little detail of the breakup and the relationship. You will need to do this for yourself. You will need to allow your mind to take it all in so that by the time you get back up on your feet, you know how you feel,” Lauren Conrad explained.
4. Uma Thurman
Uma Thurman and Ethan Hawke were the celebrity dream couple back in the 90s. The pair were married for 7 years before they finally decided to call it quits. Uma took the break-up pretty hard since she didn’t see it coming at all!
“When I was first going through my separation, someone said to me, ‘It will take you half as long as you were in the relationship before you’ll feel better.’ And I wanted to knock them out cold across the table. Because, of course, I was in agony. And the last thing I wanted to think was that I was going to stay that way for a long time. But interestingly enough, it is over four years later – we were together eight years – and I finally feel like, cool. I feel better,” Uma revealed.
3. Jessica Simpson
Pop singers Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson were an extremely popular couple back in the early 2000s. The two even starred in their very own reality TV show about their relationship. That’s why when these two broke up, everyone was shocked. After the divorce, Jessica Simpson wasn’t sure if she’d ever want to get married again.
“It was hard to imagine I would ever walk down the aisle again. It was like a death in the family: You go through the mourning stage, then the rebellion, and then all of a sudden you have to find life by yourself. Once you do that, you feel complete—and that’s the only time you can truly fall in love again and give yourself over completely to another person.”
2. Jennifer Love Hewitt
Jennifer Love Hewitt had a few gems to throw out there to those of us struggling with a break-up. “It’s what life handed me, and I’m OK with it. I know wholeheartedly that I’m a really good partner. I think I’m a really good girlfriend, and I think that I could be a really good wife. I know that I love being able to give my love out to someone. I know there is somebody great out there for me.”
1. Vanessa Paradis
Vanessa Paradis learned the valuable of learning to let go of something that is no longer serving you when she split up wth longtime partner, Johnny Depp. “Love is the strongest and most fragile thing we have in life. Nothing is ever for sure, but when something in love doesn’t work from the beginning, it’s never going to work. Don’t push it.”