The children bring in a host of problems – rearing them, school, health, and the cost of bringing them up. Work, too, can drive couples farther away from each other – stress from the workplace, competition among co-workers, and the time demanded by jobs. All of this put together can become very overbearing for the couple and their relationship may break down, causing them to feel as though they need the services of Peters And May, or similar family law firms.
It has been suggested by Dr. Chelom E. Leavitt that at least one of the partners must initiate sex, even if the initiative doesn’t always prosper. The simple act of trying promotes satisfaction, open communication, and stability. This also reduces conflict, misunderstanding, and indifference. Leavitt adds that it especially sparks something if it’s the husband who makes the first move. While sex strengthens the marital bond, the act of initiating intimacy shows desire for the other partner. This, in turn, encourages confidence in the marriage.
Spark the fire in your marriage by making simple gestures to communicate your physical desire for your partner. Familiarity can work your way, too, instead of against. A caress on the cheek may be your familiar signal to her, or a lingering touch of her lips on your finger may be her hint to you.
As mentioned, whether you end up in bed or not doesn’t always matter. When those gestures were demonstrated and no sex happened, the lack of sex as an outcome doesn’t necessarily lead to dissatisfaction. The study shows that the more instances those signals and gestures were sent, the more partners feel desired. This feeling of being wanted and desired improves the relationship and keeps the fire kindled.